We Had No Clue What We Were in Store for This Year…and Life Will NEVER Be the Same….

A year so unlucky, I refuse to even type the year in numbers in this blog…however; everyone knows what year I am referring to.  “The year of the pandemic, the year COVID-19 took over the world and changed everything.” 

And no, this year isn’t over yet – so hold on to the handrails on your roller coaster.  If things weren’t worse enough, I lost my mom this year…she was in the hospital for almost 2 months and lost her battle with cancer.   

Even though it’s been one of the most challenging years for me personally…I believe that everything happens for a reason. 

Challenges and struggles will always be present in life….sometimes more than others…but it’s how you PERCEIVE them that will determine your outcome…use each struggle as a life lesson to become stronger.

1. You Realize Who Your Real Friends Are:

You realize who your real friends are:  in life, we come across many people and friends who cross our paths; some are genuine friendships that last a lifetime.  These are the friends who will always be there for you when you need them….UNCONDITIONALLY….these are the friends that will lift you up when you are down….these are the friends that will support your endeavors.  These are friends that will never judge you.  They will be forgiving if there is an argument or fight and they will always push you to be the best person that you can be.  These friends are hard to find and come far and few between, so definitely cherish these types of friendships and let your friends know that you appreciate their friendship and love them! 

2. You Realize Who Your “Fake Friends” Are

You realize who your “fake friends” are:  these are the friends that “pretend” to you to be your friend but deep down inside they are always jealous of you or in competition. 

They send you mixed messages…yet, if you carefully listen to your instincts, actions speak louder than words. 

3. Learn to be Your Own Best Friend

This is one of the best things you can do! Part of being a badass, independent woman is to be comfortable with spending time alone. It is essential to learn to be your own best friend; especially now because “social distancing” or at least some level of it is alive and well. The pandemic has also caused a lot of stress and conflict for people, so unfortunately, people are consumed with their own life and problems and may be less readily available.

Step Outside of Your Comfort Zone and Go to Dinner Alone or Even Take a Road Trip…It’s Actually Quite Liberating

When you can be comfortable going out alone and doing things alone, it makes you emotionally stronger, it also gives you the opportunity to discover new interests, hobbies and aspects about yourself.

If you are scared or reluctant to go out by yourself; take it in baby steps and start with something simple, like taking a walk, or going to get ice cream. What will happen is that you will slowly realize it’s not that bad to go out alone and enjoy your own company! Before you know it, you will be enjoying dinner and drinks with the best company ever – yourself!

4. Challenge Yourself to Do Something That Makes You Uncomfortable

By challenging yourself to do something that makes you uncomfortable, you are programming yourself to be brave and to be open to new experiences and challenges. No matter what happens in life; you will always be presented with challenges…the sooner you get over the slump of trying something new….the sooner you will be able to take on anything in the world!

5. Change Your Perspective

How you perceive things is EVERYTHING!!! You MUST change your perspective in order to get through difficult times and thrive.

Our mind is such a powerful tool but quite often we let our mind take control over us rather than taking control over our mind.

How you perceive the world will equate to how you feel emotionally. It is important to remember that there things in life that we can control; and then there are things in life that are out of our control. It’s best to now dwell on what we cannot change! Focus on what you can change….focus on looking on the bright side of times.

Your Perspective Can Be Your Power or Your Prison

– Trent Shelton

DRESS: Temperly London

Hoop Earrings: Melinda Maria


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